Before reading any further, please know that whilst I talk of some negative stuff, this is a positive post! I promise you!
Really I don’t consider myself to have had setbacks, I prefer to think of them as sidesteps?? Sounds better and really, that’s what these things are.
My career isn’t where I had planned it to be. I work with some fabulous people and we have formed a great team. It’s just not doing what I had hoped to be doing right now. With that said, I’ve met some truly lovely people and I am grateful to know them.
I haven’t been writing as much as I promised myself I would. I am actually two thirds of my way through writing my novel and have been for quite some time now. Every time I pick it up, I love it, the storyline is right up my street but I do a little edit and write no further?? I began a blog in 2014 and really haven’t blogged anywhere near as much as planned. I have loved the idea of writing ever since I was small and saw that my Nan kept her journal. I would love to read that!
I also haven’t maintained my spiritual practices and that really is a big deal for me! No meetings, card readings, meditations or spiritual books.
I feel that the most important thing to do when you’re finding yourself side stepping like a drunken dancer is to ask yourself why you have allowed this to continue? I think this is the difficult part and where we have to bare ourselves a little!
I think the beginning for me was the long suffering illness and then death of my father. I dealt with his death, we had a fabulous relationship and I was grateful for no regrets. It was his undeserved suffering and the loss of his company I had problems coping with.
His loss had a deep effect on my ability to practice spiritually. In particular I found meditation really difficult, which was a fundamental part for me to get into my right head space. We are all so different and at this time I was self employed. It was my spirituality that kept me motivated and inspired, so sadly I allowed that to fail. I had lost my mojo, I allowed laziness and lack of self will and self discipline in.
It would be easy for me to blame too much competition in my chosen field. I could blame the economy or any other number of reasons but truth is that, it was on me.
So, on top of this huge change in my life, I also have an issue with distraction. Maybe a Gemini issue?? I have a burning desire for knowledge and that leads me onto course after course! I recently had the most interesting reactions from my sons, dropped jaws, wide eyes and shaking heads are their normal response for me now! I announced that I had just completed my ‘Angel Healing Diploma’ along with my ‘Paranormal Investigation and Ghost Hunting Diploma’.
It seems if I have an interest in something, it’s not enough to just read and enjoy. I have to learn it thoroughly and get a certificate to say I have lol!
The reason I am where I am, is entirely my own doing. Now don’t get me wrong when I say that. I know that huge things will affect and influence us as I’m sure it did with me. However, I should have took time out, dealt with it and then maintained my spiritual connection, even if it were just through reading.
I was bloody good at my trade and could have fought on! It eventually wouldn’t have mattered if there was the same service behind every door on my high street. Word of mouth would have seen me succeed.
If I am easily distracted, then I must be looking for distraction! It really is that simple, if I were that immersed in what I was doing then I wouldn’t be looking elsewhere!
Accept responsibility – I’m owning everything. Start to finish, is on me! If something goes wrong, I choose the right reaction/solution and deal with it properly and positively.
Use a Planner – Find a good diary, app on my phone or journal. Use it to maximise all my future plans.
Set Goals – Set completion times on my novel, blogs and photography.
Plan my Time – Set aside time to write. My novel separately to my blog time. (Important when you’re in other paid employment).
Meditate – Use a guided meditation if necessary!
Affirmations – Get back to my positive affirmations. At least 10 each morning and 10 each evening before sleep.
Mindfulness – Get back on it! Ekharte Tolle, The Power Of Now! What a great guy and a fab book!
Time for me – Most likely something spiritual, reading my own cards or a book. Maybe a likeminded group!
Focus – All the above will keep me focused!
Just a little Summary
We see so many blogs, vlogs, books and articles on rags to riches stories in ten easy steps or through some scheme. I am genuinely happy for these people and truly hope their stories are for real!
I am starting mine here, with its ups and downs. I’ll keep my journey updated aswell as my travels. So what do I want in life? I want to live in a quiet, peaceful place overlooking countryside. Doesn’t have to be big, just scenic outside! I want my bills, my needs and my wants paid for without worry. I’m not an extravagant person, as long as I can scrub up nice, have a lovely holiday and rest without money worries, I will go from happy to ecstatic! More than that and you will find me dancing on rooftops!
I hope this might help someone reading, who may be experiencing something similar.
Please feel free to comment, add any tips that I may have missed! Above all, keep on moving forward, never stagnate! Stop, take a breath and put your best foot forward x